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If it is your first time and you are feeling a little apprehensive or nervous about swinging,
we have some couples who are experienced with this sort of atmosphere and are very sensitive to the issues related to first timers. We can arrange a meeting in a neutral area so that you can meet and discuss fears and steps in a relaxed situation over a coffee or perhaps a light lunch. Then when you are ready to take the next step you can proceed at a pace that suits you.
We understand the mixed feelings and emotions that can give way to the first time, but believe me, if you both support each others feelings it can be a terrific and sexually satisfying experience that can bring couples closer together and more aware of each other.
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SWING. verb: 1
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To move, away or oscillate to and fro as a pendulum or other suspended object.
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The above SWING definition was used until the middle sixties that is, when swing took another meaning, completely different such as......
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SWING verb: 2.
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To have sexual intercourse, copulate, fuck. Practiced esp. by married couples who attend group sexual affairs together, though each usually performs sexually with other members of the group, frequently with two or more of these members.
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SWING verb: 3.
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Commonly considered as social sex, with no emotional involvement, and major emphasis on the physical enjoyment of the sex act; frequently, participation is between strangers.
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SWING verb: 4.
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Var. Mate swapping, usually two married couples (though sometimes a greater number) who interchange parteners for sexual purposes.
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SWING verb: 5.
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Var. Troilism - The addition of one member, either male or female, to an existing married couple for sexual purposes, with any two sexually active or all three simultaneously involved in sexual acts.
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Swinging is social and sexual intercourse with someone other than your mate, boyfriend or girlfriend, excepting the traditional one-on-one dating. It's simplest definition could be 'recreational social sex'. The activity may occur at a swing party, a couple-to-couple encounter, a liaison, or with a third person in a threesome. Although single men and women are involved, it is primarily an activity for couples.
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Sex is universal and people who swing come from all economic levels. Every job classification, all races and nationalities are represented, though the majority are Caucasian, middle to upper middle socio-economic class, and married. Swingers, married and single, tend to be adventuresome, emotionally mature, and have excellent relationships with their mates and friends. Single people are involved in swinging but not to the extent of couples. Many single women have joined swing clubs, finding them a refreshing alternative to the traditional bar scene.
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Swinging is the "recreation" for couples whether they are married, living together or de facto. A study of swinging couples (McGinley, 1979) reported increased enjoyment and satisfaction in their relationships accompanied by a better understanding of self and mate, greater intimacy between partners and a decrease in sex role playing and sexist expectations.
Swinging enables a couple to explore sexual and social feelings and needs together, permitting a demystification of sex, which allows sex to assume a place in the relationship unhindered by the standard ties of love, duty, sex roles and morals of others.
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It is certainly an understatement to say that the role of women in our society has greatly changed over the past several decades. The humanistic and woman's movements have had an impact on sexuality also. The number of women choosing involvement in swinging during the past few years is remarkable. Sexual and social assertiveness on the part of women at swing parties and other swing activities is not only acceptable, it has come to be expected.
To openly be oneself without fear of seeming unfeminine is a delightful experience for a woman and a welcome experience for the man. Swinging provides the environment to alter sex role playing for both sexes, allowing men and women to participate with each other in a uniquely human experience.
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Whether married, in a relationship or single, swinging can be a wonderful experience for a man. Not surprisingly, most women who are into swinging were introduced to the lifestyle by a man in their life. Also not surprising, many men would swing if only they could! They are often hindered by marriage (to a partner opposed to swinging), or, if single, their inability to find a woman for a swinging partner. Don't forget that guilt feelings about sex and pleasure, and sex roles also hinder men from swinging.
Men are not the macho, always ready, self-reliant persons of their stereotypes - they are human as their female counterparts. They experience loneliness and fear rejection. A man, having convinced his wife to try swinging, may experience unexpected jealousy and a feeling of loss when she participates with gusto and is obviously excited by sex with others. He had fantasized himself in swinging but had not comprehended the reality of his wife or mate swinging. As with women, the experience of swinging can be growth producing - and very pleasurable - for a man.
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NASCA defines swing clubs as any organization, formal or informal, which exists to provide swinging activities. Swing clubs exist in a variety of forms. These include Swing Clubs, Party Houses, Circles and Socials, Bars and Cocktail Lounges and Contact Services. All but the contact services may be on-premises or off-premises. Contact services work through the mail or telephone and rarely provide swing parties although they may promote group travel. Parties given by on-premises swing clubs may have from ten to sixty or more couples, although twenty to forty couples is the common average. On-premises means that sexual activity occurs at the party. Off premises swing clubs, cocktail lounges and bars help you to meet other swingers. Swinging will be elsewhere with the interested couples and singles responsible for the arrangements. The arrangements include who is to be invited the location, date and time.
The on-premises party offers a wide possibility of social interaction, selection potential of swinging with others in a foursome, threesome, one-on-one, or in a group scene. Bisexual as well as heterosexual swinging is possible, principally among women. And the club on-premises party offers this without pressure in a structured environment. Private, semi-private and group rooms are generally provided to meet the desires of virtually everyone. Heated pools, Jacuzzi's and hot tubs may be available to accent the social environment.
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Swing publications serve the swing community by publishing personal ads. Many also publish photos of the advertisers. A few carry ads only. Most offer articles about swinging and sexual behaviour. Personal ads offer a form of swinging that many find exciting. The placing and answering of ads is a swing activity in itself. It is exciting to open a letter describing a new couple, perhaps with photos. Socially meeting someone following an exchange of letters, photos and phone calls, with the possibility of swinging, it is considered the height of swinging pleasure by many.
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The actual sexual activity is varied. Though important, swinging is rarely centred around the orgasm but on the various pleasurable acts that lead to orgasm. Once on a bed, the participants will generally begin with kissing and caressing each other's body. Both the woman's and man's nipples are favourite places of fondling, sucking and gentle nibbling, followed by licking and kissing around the genital area, then the genitals directly. Most develop techniques they feel pleasure their various partners. Sixty-nine or mutual oral-genital pleasuring is popular. Either partner may masturbate the other and vibrators may be used, especially in group swing scenes such as in a swing club's group room. These activities may be intermixed with intercourse done in a variety of ways. Anal sex is popular with some swingers. Bisexual swinging is more common among women than among men. When in a comfortable, non-threatening atmosphere, your imagination is the limit as to where the sex goes and what is actually done. It may take a few "sessions" before you are able to get to this point, but once there, you will be hooked on the feeling of sexual freedom and power you are able to experience within this atmosphere!
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Nerves are very natural and to be expected! In a 'good' swinging atmosphere there is little or no pressure to actively participate if you don't feel comfortable enough to do so. While most talk about swinging for quite a while before actually doing something about it, many couples feel nervous about taking the steps necessary to meet other swingers. As stated before, this is quite normal and most couples feel this way. Having overcome the butterflies to actually turn up and meet another couple or couples, the fear of not being able to stop the action once 'swinging' starts is sometimes so great that none is started! This can be overcome by one simple thing - communication. If meeting a couple independently, the onus is on each couple to make sure the sexual expectations and boundaries of all involved are discussed before any sexual activity takes place. This way all parties will have the comfort of knowing whether compatibility exists, and whether boundaries will be respected. If swinging within a club situation, some or all of this is done for you - the answer 'no' is adhered to, or the offending party is asked to leave.
* Some information provided by NASCA International
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